Knowing how far you can push someone and it still be a good time.

"Oh, yeah, safety tools are an absolute must. And that's regardless of intensity. I'm pretty brutal when I'm in the zone, and I've hurt people to the brink of tears time and time again, but I always check in to make sure they're okay with that. And the same goes with something gentler. Remember, even if you're in control, it's not just about what you want."

Familiar with the cost of full leather garb

"I'm selling these fine leather jackets!"

Being adversarial so the other party can have fun